I too am having problems solving my user moderation issues. I have a few questions.
I only want users to be activated manually by admin and at the time of activation hit the "Resend Notification" to the user which states they have been accepted. So I need two things to happen no activation email and no initial notification to the user.
1. Is it possible to not send the activation email? (This is my biggest concern)
2. Is it possible to not send the user notification when they complete the form but do send it when I hit "Resend Notification" in the Entry Details page?
Much appreciated!