Need some support

I'm trying to get the Elegant Themes Boutique theme, Cart66, Gravity Forms, and a lightbox (any lightbox) that will handle a form to all play nice together. I have been on the 3 support forums (theme, cart, forms) and no one seems to be able to give me any direction. Any suggestions or anyone who has used the 4 together out there to give me any advice.

My current problems isn't exactly with Gravity Forms, I don't think, but trying to get a lightbox form to play nice with my theme. I'm just looking for someone who has worked with these 4 items/plugins to give me some advice.

Thanks,
Alisa

I have a partially complete form: http://dancingbayembroidery.com/koozies/ . Scroll down to Text* and select Monogram. When you select Monogram, a link will appear to the right called Monogram Fonts. Clicking on that link takes you here: http://dancingbayembroidery.com/popups/monograms.php which I would like to appear in a lightbox form. This form was coded by hand because I cannot figure out how to (1) create a totally plain page with my theme and (2) cannot figure out how to created a gravity form with the images. This is where I'm stuck. I want the value from the 2nd form to go into the field called Monogram. On the Advanced tab from the text field called Monogram, I have set the Paramenter name to monogram and check the allow field to be populated dynamically box. However, when I do a view source of the page, I see this code:
<li id='field_1_21' class='gfield' >
<label class='gfield_label' for='input_1_21'>Monogram</label>
<div class='ginput_container'>
<input name='input_21' id='input_1_21' type='text' value='' class='medium' tabindex='5' />
</div>

What this tells me is that the radio buttons:
<input type="radio" name="monogram" value="Circle-2L" /> for example,
from the 2nd form will never match up with the base form because it's looking for a field called input_21.

I'm also stuck in the fact that I cannot figure out how to get a lightbox, much less a lightbox form to pop up. When I say this, I mean that I set it up they way I think it should be set up and what comes up is a grid of images and when I click on an image it goes to a page with just that image and not a lightbox. Now, I think this is a Boutique theme issue, so not within the scope of this support group. I just cannot get anyone over there to understand what I'm saying. They might answer, but not the question I'm asking. Maybe I just don't know how to ask the question properly.

The other problem that when it comes back to the base form, anything I previously set it wiped out. I understand why this is happening. I need to send everything previously set over to the 2nd from and then back, but I was thinking that with a lightbox, this would not happen.

Once I get the form building the way I want it to, I need to figure out how to wrap Cart66 around it so that it will be a real shopping cart, send charges to PayPal and orders to me.

This will be a slow process getting this section working properly, but once I get this going, I should be able to set up the rest of my cart quickly. I have lots of html, php, & mysql experience. I worked as a developer from 2000 to 2008, first with static html pages, then Perl, then PHP/MySQL. I basically understand JavaScript and CSS but am better at tweaking code than writing it myself. I'm pretty new to WordPress. This is my 2nd site which is for my business. My 1st was Photocrati template which was pretty simple to set up and get running properly. It was for a friend. I have not worked with hooks before.

I hope someone can help, at least with a part of this.

Thanks,
Alisa

I finally figured out the images on the form. I don't like that they're all bunch up, so may need to add some padding to them, but if I can just get this to open in a lightbox, that'll be one big hurdle.

Thanks,
Alisa

I think I may have found the solution to my question using gform_form_tag. Since I want to target back to the form that called the lightbox form, is this correct?:

add_filter("gform_form_tag", "form_tag", 10, 2);
function form_tag($form_tag, $form){
	if ($form["id"] == 2) {
		$form_tag = preg_replace("|action='(.*?)'|", "action='http://dancingbayembroidery.com/koozies/'", $form_tag);
		return $form_tag;
	}
}

the if statement would direct the hook to only be used on that specific form, right. My biggest question is do I need to have the lightbox form have a method of post or get? and if get, do I also change that within the gform_form_tag hook? and how?

Thanks,
Alisa